An Ode to Hookup Culture

An NYU student's personal response

Brain Like NYU | The Rival | May 2, 2016

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The era of genuine dates and courting seems to be long gone. To many, this is a blessing. However, there is a large community of individuals that doesn’t resonate with the current practices of this “hook-up culture”. Below, I have taken the conversations and experiences of many of my peers to illustrate the emotional strain put upon those that unsuccessfully attempt to meld into this culture. This poem depicts the common descent into “catching feels”.

 

It’s fun and freeing.

My body is my own and I can choose what to do with it.

I can do casual, this time is different.

Just don’t think.

Do what makes you happy,

But only if it is devoid of emotion.

Just go with it.

They don’t need to know what you’re thinking.

They don’t want to know what you’re thinking.

It’s cool, stay cool.

I am my own person and I own my own body.

Do they want to hear from me?

Do they think about me?

Why do I feel so unevenly involved?

Just wait for them to come around.

People respond to confidence.

Neglect your own desires.

Be selfless in the hopes that they will notice.

Give everything you have.

As if it will never regenerate.

And wait.

For the inevitable loss that follows.

When you recognize you made someone important.

When you recognize you were simply an option.

And you feel smaller than you’ve ever felt.

Feel losses you didn’t know you could feel.

Because now you must decide,

If you weren’t good enough,

Or society wasn’t.

So with every remaining shred of hope,

We bounce back.

Each time a little bit more hardened than the last.

Each time with a full heart.

Seeking to find something that works.

And with a new flame, we decide to go ahead.

Because

It’s fun and freeing.

My body is my own and I can choose what to do with it.

I can do casual, this time is different.

Just don’t think.

 

This is piece is contributed by Abbey Robbins, a CAS student double majoring in Sociology and East Asian Language and Civilization.